With the growing community of ExJWs online, we need to support each other through some of the most challenging personal situations. One way that we can support each other is by being active listeners. Your job as a listener is to build rapport, understanding, and trust. As JWs, we were accustomed to telling others whatContinue reading “Support ExJWs with Active Listening”
The feelings of members of Jehovah’s Witnesses are often rejected, ignored, or judged. This is emotional invalidation. Especially if born into the religion these people may experience a very profound level of personal invalidation. Not only are they told what to believe but they are also told what they feel. Any personal feelings or experiencesContinue reading “Emotional Validation”
Many XJW’s are working on building better healthier relationships. With effort and support we can overcome the social and relationship trauma we have experienced. Letting Positive Psychology influence the way we speak and respond to others can help.
As we grow we develop ideas about who we are, who others are, and what the world is like. The collection of values and beliefs that we have about life called our world view. Our world view affects how we treat others and how we live our lives. Waking up from Jehovah’s Witnesses typically meansContinue reading “Love Yourself and Others”
I received an email from the International Cultic Studies Association (ICSA) that talked about how it can be difficult for former members of controlling religions to make friends. It explained that when your in such a group the other members are automatically your friends and you don’t have to work on relationships. This made meContinue reading “Instant Friends, Just Add Water”
So let me tell you a story about learning about myself post fundamentalism. This story involves a former coworker I will call Kathy. Let me say that Kathy was a competent worker and generally, I did not have a problem working with Kathy. However… there were a few, shall we say, incidents involving Kathy thatContinue reading “Learning To Not Be Passive Anymore”